ALL ABOUT ANAL ORGASMS

 

Yes, anal sex can be enjoyable. And yes, anal orgasms are totally a thing. There’s no doubt that anal sex still comes with a bit of skepticism. That could be because stepping into the anal arena for the first time can be intimidating, to say the least.

What the heck are you supposed to do down there? Is it painful? Enjoyable? And most of all: Is it actually possible to have an anal orgasm?

 

What Is an Anal Orgasm?

 

An anal orgasm is exactly what it sounds like — orgasm that’s achieved through anal stimulation. We’re talking touching, licking, fingering, penetration, and more. If it feels good, anything goes! An anal orgasm occurs when you climax from stimulation of your butt, which is full of sensitive nerve endings. While penis owners can experience a unique prostate orgasm from anal stimulation, an anal orgasm is possible no matter your gender and sexual orientation.

 

Will it hurt at all?

Minor discomfort the first couple of times is normal as you adjust to being penetrated back there. It shouldn’t cause severe pain.

 

How to get started

Sex on the fly is fun, but when it comes to anal play, a little prep can help make the experience better for the receiver and the giver.

 

 

If you’re the receiving partner; Being relaxed and aroused are key, especially if this is your first time indulging into butt play.

Here are some ideas and other tips to get you started:

• Indulge in something erotic. The more turned on you are, the easier and more enjoyable butt play will be. Watch porn, listen to an erotic story, or just close your eyes and fantasize.
• Take a hot bath. A hot bath before anal play will help loosen tight muscles and increase blood flow to all your bits. Use bath time to give your erogenous zones a good rub-a-dub and show your anus some love while you wash up.
• Practice with a butt plug. Sex toys can help you get a feel for anal play before experimenting with your partner. Take things slow and enjoy the feeling of the toy teasing your butt before inserting it.
• Stock up on lube. There’s no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal. It isn’t just about the delightful slip and slide, but also an important part of anal sex safety.

If you’re the giving partner; As the giver, you need to bring your A-game. A little prep can help you help them have that anal orgasm:

• Groom those hands. Trim and file your nails to prevent tearing delicate skin. Short nails also mean less space for dirt and bacteria to hide. While we’re on the subject of bacteria, don’t forget to wash your hands thoroughly before going in. You could also wear latex gloves, and for extra comfort insert some cotton balls.
• Use a condom. Condoms can be used on a butt toy and fingers, as well as a penis. If you want to use your tongue, a condom can also be cut open and used as an alternative to a dental dam. This isn’t just to prevent STIs, but also to nip the ick factor in the bud if you or your partner is nervous.
• Get in the mood. Foreplay can help get you both ready for what’s to come and make entry into that special spot easier. Touching, kissing, and licking the buttocks and the area around the anus is a good way to get the party started.

6 Techniques for Achieving an Anal Orgasm

 

Experiencing an anal orgasm takes patience and practice. These techniques can help you reach anal orgasm, with or without a partner.

Relax your anal sphincter muscles. Masturbate or try foreplay techniques with your partner; take a long bath, light some candles, and put on sexy music before engaging in anal play. Other types of orgasms, like a clitoral orgasm, can help relax your sphincter muscles and increase your chances of an anal orgasm.

 

Start with your finger. At first, experiment on your own with anal masturbation. Apply lube to your anus and pinky finger, then slide your pinky gently inside your anus. Let your finger rest there for a moment, allowing your body to get used to the sensation. Once you feel comfortable, reapply lube and use a larger finger. Be patient with yourself. Getting comfortable with anal penetration takes time—proper anal training can take weeks or even months. Make sure you are experienced with fingers or smaller toys before moving on to a penis or strap-on dildo.

 

Explore with sex toys. Some sex toys are specifically designed to stimulate the nerves in your anus; these include butt plugs, anal beads, prostate massagers, and anal dildos. The important thing to look for when choosing an anal sex toy is a handle with a flared base or a loop to ensure that the toy won’t accidentally slip into your rectum. Anal sex toys are typically made of silicone or stainless steel, and some include vibration settings. These toys require lots of lube and regular cleaning with warm water and mild soap or sex toy cleaner.

 

Experiment with a partner. Before trying anal intercourse, consider rimming with your tongue or fingering the anus lightly. Try out a few anal sex positions until you find one that works well for you and your partner.

 

Explore different techniques. If you are the giver, ask for your partner’s feedback, and pay attention to how they respond to each technique. Consider stimulating the pudendal nerve, which is the main nerve running through the perineum, or the area between the genitals and anus. If your partner has a penis, try inserting your finger into the anus about two to four inches deep, angling up toward the belly button. You should feel the prostate, a firm walnut-sized gland, through the rectum’s front wall.

 

Stimulate other erogenous zones. While having anal sex or performing an anal massage, focus on other erogenous zones like the scrotum, clitoris, neck, or nipples. Ask your partner what erogenous zones are pleasurable for them. For vulva owners, try stimulating the anterior fornix (also known as the A-spot), located inside the vagina between the cervix and the bladder. You can also practice clitoral stimulation during anal sex for enhanced pleasure.

The Bottom Line

The butt can be loads of fun, and an anal orgasm is worth pursuing. Even if you don’t have one, chances are you’ll have some type of orgasm along the way. Be prepared, go slow, and enjoy all the pleasure the butt has to offer.