HOW TO GIVE THE MOST AMAZING HANDJOBS
The infamous hand job, more intimate than French kissing or heavy petting, manual stimulation of the genitals by another person, specifically crosses a clear boundary from sensual into sexual.
Hand jobs are incredibly versatile. They can be performed by almost anyone all you need is a person with a penis and a person with a hand. They can be performed almost anywhere in any position, whether sitting, standing, lying down, or even underwater.
Using your hands allows you to stimulate your partner’s penis with movements and sensations that penetration cannot replicate. There’s a lot to like about hand jobs. So, what’s the deal with them, exactly?
The Best Tips For Mind Blowing Hand Jobs
- Make eye contact.
It doesn’t matter what type of sex you’re having eye contact is like an all-encompassing sexual secret weapon. Checking in with your partner through eye contact tells them you are connected with them and their pleasure, that you’re attuned and invested. We don’t mean have a staring competition with your playmate, but long, lingering glances and a few steamy looks will go a long way.
- Try an arousal serum.
While the importance of lube can’t be overstated, one of the most fun and multitasking ways to elevate a hand job is with a stimulating oil or lube. We highly suggest Mood Lube Tingling 4OZ or Mood Lube Warming 4OZ because it not only gives a pleasurable warming/tingling sensation but it’s also condom safe! You need to use lube anyway, so you might as well use some that’ll result in firework-style climaxes!
- Watch them masturbate.
Your partner probably knows some of their favorite ways to be touched, and an easy way to mimic that is by literally just watching them masturbate. If you’re both comfortable with it, a little show and tell can go a long way.
- Don’t be afraid to apply pressure.
A big ‘issue’ that comes up from men is that women are too delicate with the penis. It’s not really your fault since the clitoris is really sensitive, we tend to approach the penis with more sensitivity than necessary, but you can be a lot firmer than you think. During penetrative sex, the walls of the vagina or anus kind of hug the penis, giving it a nice tight feeling. When giving a handy, keep this in mind and try to mimic that feeling by wrapping your hands around their penis and gradually increasing the pressure.
- Get Rotational
One way to intensify the handjob is to rotate your hand back and forth around the shaft of your guy’s penis. Gripping the penis and rotating your hand around gently as you go up and down his shaft will help deliver a more pleasant sensation than you simply moving your hand up and down steadily without rotating it at all. From there, you can pick up the speed or slow down the action depending on your guy’s preference.
- Use both hands.
Speaking of technique, one way to make him finish fast (that is sort of the goal when your arms get tired, right?) is to bring both hands to the penis party. He’s most likely used to just using one main hand when he masturbates, so if you use two, you’re adding excitement and stimulation right off the bat. Plus, using two hands shows you’re really invested in giving a good performance. He will be much more into the hand job if he can easily tell that you are, too.
- Experiment with different areas.
Don’t leave the balls out of it unless you know he’s not into ball play. Balls are usually pretty simple: Either cradle them softly in one hand, rub your fingers around them, or lightly stroke the area in between the two testicles, which is super-sensitive. You could also try spreading your hand so that you grasp his balls between your fingers (do. not. squeeze.) or grazing a finger from the top of his ball sack down. Bonus: The area between his penis and anus, the perineum, has tons of nerve endings, so you can touch there, too.. He could also like a little butt action but always ask first. Never assume.
“It’s perfectly possible to use a hand job as the main sex event rather than just foreplay.”
- Make yourself comfortable.
No good partner wants you to get a weird cramp in your wrist, and you’ll enjoy yourself way more as the giver too if you know that you don’t have to stay glued in one position until completion. Sure, they might be soaking it all up, but you’re the star of the show here.
Play around with your own positioning as you pleasure your partner so they can see all of you at different angles. You can have them lie down while you sit up and pleasure them, or you can have them stand up while you sit beneath them. There are an infinite number of positions to try, and don’t forget the art of the tease!
- Don’t Be Afraid to Talk Dirty
Guys love when you talk dirty to them. The basics seem to be popular: compliment his manhood, talk about how impressive, big, or nice it is; ask him if he’s enjoying himself, say “you like that baby?” He’ll also love it if you take charge and tell him when to cum.
- Let them finish on you if it sounds hot to you.
One of the hottest ways to cap off a hand job is to offer a part of your body (e.g., breasts, tummy, neck, face, or even feet) for them to cum on. If it sounds hot to you too, of course. Don’t race for the tissues or jump straight into the shower either. Tell them how much they turned you on, take their penis in your hands and give it a gentle caress. Give them a deep, lingering kiss.
