HOW TO STIMULATE MALE NIPPLES
Finding new ways to touch, tease, and pleasure your partner is simply the best, we’re going to clue you in on one little secret: You should be stimulating your man’s nipples like, every time you have sex.
Why? Because neglecting your man’s nipples would be a big mistake. Huge! Especially if you want him to experience some fireworks.
In the same way your nipples are probably a super-hot erogenous zone, it’s the same for men. And actually, your guy’s nipples might even be more sensitive than yours since men aren’t used to having them touched or at least touched as often.
With males, the nipples serve no other function aside from being an erogenous zone. But everyone is different, and what might feel good to some might hurt, tickle, or irritate others. For many males, nipple play is required to achieve orgasm. For others, the pure act of nipple play can bring them to an earth-shattering climax.
Common misconceptions about male nipples
Male nipples are often overlooked when it comes to sex, with their female counterparts hogging the limelight. Why is this? It may have something to do with the fact that thanks to misogyny, women’s bodies are more heavily and readily sexualized than men’s bodies, ergo women’s nipples are never seen as simply a functional body part (breastfeeding!) but only as sexual focal points. It may also be that since men’s nipples do not serve a practical nutrition-related purpose in the same way as women’s do, they’re regarded as unnecessary and therefore not worthy of attention. Either way, these patterns do a disservice to all people’s bodies.
The most common misconception about male nipples is that they are not as sensitive as women’s nipples. This is simply not true in fact, there are some men who need nipple stimulation in order to come or to be able to come more quickly or intensely.
No one should feel ashamed for wanting nipple play
Some men can feel emasculated for wanting nipple play because, according to backward societal gender norms, it’s a sign of femininity. And while we know that’s BS what you enjoy in the bedroom has no bearing on your gender! some men still have trouble asking their partners to try it, or even admitting to themselves that they want to do it.
For any new type of play, it’s best to ask in advance, rather than in the moment, if it’s something your partner is interested in as well. Turn a friendly conversation intimate by opening up with things you enjoy doing together … ‘Have you ever thought about nipple stimulation?’ can be a great transition to bring up what you’re interested in exploring or what sensations you already know you like.”
Start off slow
Let’s say you’re the one doing nipple play on your partner. Once you’re both in the mood, start by rubbing or sucking on your partner’s nips. When sucking, make sure to get the whole areola in your mouth; this is how oxytocin is produced and oxytocin buildup in the system is a major contributing factor in orgasm. If you want your partner to really feel good, this should NOT be a fly-by-night, hit-and-run experience. You really need to devote time to warming up this area, building pleasure, and then riding the rolling waves of pleasure that can come from this experience.
Remember that not all nipples are alike
Though nipples have hundreds of nerve endings, the sensitivity of each bud depends on the person. Don’t expect that you or your partner will immediately achieve the big O after a few seconds of nipple-sucking or at all! Maybe it’s something you end up pairing with other sex acts to enhance your overall pleasure.
Use sex toys for nipple play
You can always take nipple play up a notch by introducing sex toys! Certain sex toys, such as nipple suckers and nipple clamps, can feel great on the nips and tap into your kinkier side. Massaging the nipples with hot oil can also feel really good.
Male nipple play techniques to try
Hand:
- Brushing: Brushing the nipples lightly with the tips of your fingers can feel extremely pleasurable. You can vary the pressure as you see how your partner responds.
- Pinching: Squeeze between the thumb and forefinger, and gently yank them toward you.
- Flicking: Flicking can create a sting that can be very sexy if your partner is already suitably aroused. Try a lot of softer flicks within a short space of time or harder but more spaced-out flicks.
- Scratching: You can also scratch across them or press on them directly.
- The double-finger technique: With two of your fingers, apply direct pinching to the nipple, making small circles around the nipple or to twist back and forth. After, apply light or quick strokes with the tip of your finger or tongue.
Mouth:
- Licking: Licking can be a surefire hit. Experiment with making your tongue hard and soft, and vary the pressure, speed, and direction. Start by kissing around the chest, and work your way to the nipple. You can take the nipple between your lips and kind of make out.
- Sucking: The technique that you might use to suck someone’s clit can be transferred pretty seamlessly over to a nipple. Create a small vacuum around the nipple and then run your tongue over it. Good stuff!
- Biting: You should ask your partner beforehand how they feel about a nibble of the nipple, but if they’re game, then biting can be used for maximum sensation. It’s especially effective at moments near climax. Just be careful not to use too much force.
Toys:
- Try temperature play: Temperature play can be especially arousing when applied to the nipples. Use ice, drip hot candle wax, or even warming oil and massage his chest and nipples.
- Use nipple clamps: Nipple clamps are a great option as they can be put on loosely or tightly and can even vibrate. In order to add to the fun, make it a date in which you go out and both get to choose together the particular clamps you’d like to try.
- Add food to the mix: Get some tasty treats like whipped cream or melted chocolate to lick off your partner’s nipples for added enjoyment.
- Use vibrators: Even though nipples are the focus, using non-nipple-centric toys can add to the experience.
- Try power play: For example, If you and your partner are into kink, try tying him up (with consent first!), then while tied you can try using a vibrator as well. To make it even more exciting, put an eye mask on him while tied.
The bottom line
Despite popular belief, stimulating your clitoris, vagina, or penis is not the only way to have an orgasm. Nipple play can also bring you to that big O. And there are so many ways you can stimulate your nipples to make that orgasm explosive.
Experiment with techniques, find out what makes you feel good, and just have fun!