Halloween Role Play: Ideas, Tips and Tricks

Whether you’re boo’d up this Halloween or rolling solo, ‘tis the season to bring a little fun into the bedroom. What better way than by taking those Halloween costumes from the streets to the sheets with a little role playing?!

Whether you’re new to role-playing or a seasoned veteran, we’ve got some tips and ideas for an evening of tricks and treats!

What is role playing?

Let’s start with the basics. Role play is the act of imitating a character or behavior of someone who is different from yourself. Role playing is popular in relationships because it gives individuals and couples the opportunity to play out their sexual fantasies. It’s a powerful way to express yourself and your desires, which you should always feel open to do in any relationship (whether your status is long-term, or you’ve just met).

A little kink is healthy for any relationship (or hook up)

First off, forget any stigmas or things you’ve heard that role play might be bad. Being someone else, for even just a few minutes behind closed doors, is not only exciting but can strengthen relationships. Role play in relationships is really healthy and can help to grow and fortify your connection with your partner. The playing out of fantasy tends to happen when one feels very safe and secure within a relationship. Role playing can be an excellent indicator of feeling emotionally and physically safe with a sexual partner.

What’s Your Fantasy?

Role playing allows you to be a little kinky in the sheets by stepping outside of yourself, getting into character, and acting out your deepest fantasies. In role playing scenarios not only can you indulge in some of your wildest fantasies, but so can your partner, which means maybe you’ll get a glimpse of each other that you don’t normally get to see on a day-to-day basis. Plus, we’re willing to bet that a little role playing in the bedroom will give you tons of things you’ll remember long after you leave the actual hours of the steamy night behind you.

So, what are some common sexual fantasies? According to INSIDER, these are the most common sexual fantasies (this may not ring true for everyone, but maybe there’s one or two that you’ve also got on your list):

• Multi-partner sex, which involves sex with more than one partner of the same or different genders
• Dominant or rough sex. This includes BDSM, which stands for bondage, disciple, domination, submission, sadism, and masochism
• Voyeurism, or arousal caused by watching people engage in sexual activity
• Exhibitionism, or the act of becoming aroused by others consensually watching you have sex
• Sex in public or an unusual location
• Cosplay, or dressing up like someone or something from a book, movie, video game, etc.
• Romanic or tantric sex, or sex that focuses on an emotional and/or erotic connection
• Gender-bending when a person challenges societal expectations of their gender
• Homoeroticism, a fantasy that involves sexual acts with members of the same sex

Never role played before? We’ve got you covered!

One of the great things about role playing is that it can help to lower inhibitions, perhaps making you a bit more adventurous and open to things than you might typically be. However, for someone new to role playing it can certainly seem intimidating. Here are a few things to consider when deciding what, when and how to role play.

• Establish Consent and Boundaries– Just like any other form of sexual contact, role play must first and foremost be consensual. Before you and your partner become different people for the night, talk over what you’re willing to do and not do. You may also want to come up with any safe words if you’re practicing BDSM or anything similar.
• Start Small– It’s okay if the first time you role play doesn’t involve an elaborate, over-the-top costume or fully flushed-out script of make-believe dialogue. It’s really easy and casual to start role playing through text first. You and your partner can gauge how you enjoy it and feel about it without the pressure of “acting” in front of each other.
• Change Locations– Taking yourself out of your “normal” environment can help get things started if you’re new to role playing. Even if it’s just changing up locations in your home. Instead of starting in the bedroom, turn your kitchen into a bar for the evening. Changing up locations can help you let your imagination go.
• Don’t Stress If You Feel Silly– Like anything new or different, role playing can feel awkward and uncomfortable at first. It can take time to get used to being that way with your partner, so don’t stress if its uncomfortable at first. If you do find yourself feeling self-conscious or silly playing a role, turn the lights down low or play music on high volume. Changes in sensory perception (deprivation or enhancement) can help to distract you from your self-consciousness.

Now for the real fun, costumes! Halloween is the perfect opportunity to try out role playing since you already have the costumes handy.

 

• Being extra playful

Staying in character is a fun way to draw out the flirtation and keep a love interest or partner guessing. Even as your discussing practical plans or needs for the evening (e.g. do we have enough candy?), remain in character to set the tone and develop greater comfort with your role.

 

• Choosing a costume that doesn’t represent your typical self

Dressing up gives you a chance to explore your alter ego and try on new personas temporarily. You might even find that you push your boundaries and act out of character once you’re in character. Inject elements of your own personality into the new role but allow yourself to wander into uncharted territory.

 

Role Playing Costumes/Ideas:

 

1. Boss and employee

Role play often relies on breaking taboos and creating power dynamics. Therefore, unsurprisingly, work-based role plays are a bedroom staple. But, if you want to truly channel the office vibes, maybe leave the bed altogether and try having sex on a table or desk. While this can result in a slightly bruised bum or desperate fumbling as you try to move your laptop out of harm’s way, overall, it’ll be worth it. Just make sure you’ve moved any sharp pencils from the area.

2.       The classic maid or butler

This role play can have as much historical flair as you like. If you’re a keen historian and/or have watched Bridgerton’s sex scenes (aren’t they roughly the same thing?), you might want to play at being a member of home help staff, obeying a master or mistress.

3.       An erotic massage therapist

Given that massages essentially make someone as horny as possible without ever getting them off, a massage that takes you ‘all the way’ is a real treat.

But, if you’re playing the masseuse, make sure you pay attention to all the different parts of your partner’s body before you start to get it on. That way the payoff will be even more satisfying.

 

4. A stranger

Get your partner to approach you as though you’ve never met and are complete strangers, to treat your body like they’ve never seen it before, and to take you with all the frenzied lust that drives two people who don’t know each other’s names to jump into bed together. It’s the best of both worlds: all the fun of stranger sex without any of the anxiety that the person you’re sleeping with might be an absolute fckboy/girl/person who will ghost you tomorrow. This role play’s an easy one to accessorize with wigs, too.

 

5. An authority figure (like GP or medical professional)

The doctor/patient scenario is hot because it involves an authority figure. But this becomes still hotter when the authority figure has a reason to touch you – AND if you have a sexy doctor’s or nurse’s outfit. Try giving your partner a ‘physical’ and explain to them that a normal side effect of such procedures is that they might start to really, really want to have sex with you.

6. Outdoorsy sex scenes

By this I mean rural romps. I’m talking farm hand or milk maid-based role play. Practice perfecting your southern twang and pretend you’re rolling around in a haystack. Try your best to recreate the naughtiness of doing it alfresco as well as the romance of the wilderness – even if in reality, you’re only shagging with the window open and rolling about laughing at those dodgy accents.

 

7. Your first time

Because, for most people, their real first time was either painful, embarrassing, or unfulfilling, it’s fun to be able to recreate the event. Maybe put on a soundtrack that reminds you of your teens and try and remember that time of sexual frustration. Bring that extreme desire back to the surface and allow it to erupt all over again – but this time, hopefully, with a little more control and skill.

 

8. Yogi master/instructor

It doesn’t matter how flexible you are – anyone can make a yoga role play work. You can go pro, contorting your body into impressive yet erotic positions, or you can embrace being a total novice and simply waggle your bum in the air claiming it’s ‘downward dog’. Whatever your aptitude, pretending to be a yoga instructor can be a particularly fun, experimental role play, encouraging you to adopt ambitions positions and to serenely instruct your partner where to place their limbs.

9. Monarchy, darling

Whatever your personal, political stance on the monarchy, regal role plays can be very hot. You may not fancy any of the royals, but that doesn’t mean you don’t fancy playing at being a princess or prince yourself. I mean, I reckon the only reason we haven’t abolished the monarchy is that we find the whole thing, well, sexy. But don’t let the royals have all the fun – bring the eroticism of dynasty to your one-bedroom flat and command that your lover reveal their *ahem* goods.

 

10. Best friends turned lovers

If you’ve ever had a crush on one of your best mates, you’ll know the sexual tension can be very very real. Play on that, with the stolen glances and uncertainty as to whether they feel the same about you. The push and pull and trying to figure out whether and when to make a move can be super hot.

 

11. The plumber

If you’ve ever seen an old school porno, you’ll know when the plumber, carpenter, electrician, handy man/woman/person shows up, things can get pretty heated. Maybe you’re home alone and your kitchen sink has sprung a leak, you’re all wet and you don’t know what to do, when the plumber turns up to save the day.

12. Pilot / captain

Look, anyone who can drive a boat or plane is hot in our book. Imagine you’re a passenger on a private jet, or luxury yacht, and over the intercom comes your pilot/captain’s voice: Please report to the cabin immediately. What happens when you get there is up to you…